Familial Relations: North and South

  • Rebecca J. Fraser
Part of the Genders and Sexualities in History book series (GSX)


Recollecting tales to her children of the years she had spent growing up in New Hartford must have been somewhat bittersweet for Sarah. She had moved far from her childhood home when marrying Ben, in the process threatening relationships with her Northern kin that she held dear. Bereft of the immediacy of her parent’s guidance and her sisters’ comfort Sarah’s feelings of loneliness and isolation were compounded on her initial arrival at Clifton Grove. As the years passed and she successfully acculturated into her role as a Southern wife and mother Sarah depended less on her parent’s counsel. Yet the determination to preserve her New Hartford kin as part of a family history, which her children and grandchildren could impart to their descendants, meant treasured memories of Sarah’s New Hartford years were often recollected and formed part of a rich tapestry of her life, providing meaning and understanding for both herself and future generations.


Nineteenth Century Young Sister Protestant Work Ethic Familial Relation Gender Script 
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